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It@@@s Not Personal

There are different ways to handle the things that happen in life, the key to not being controlled by them is to understand what happens is never personal regardless of what it is…

The way life happenings are handled depends strictly on how they are related to yourself. Most make the self so personal that it’s attached to as if what’s happening is happening to you. This is very constricting and creates much suffering because it’s labeled as wrong that it’s happening. This is when the would’ve, should’ve, could’ve mind takes over. That there’s a you who things happen to is the conventional way of seeing not only yourself, but also what happens. Nothing truly happens to you, things do happen, but nothing directly happens to you unless there’s a you who attaches to it. I’m not saying ignore what happens, but without the attachment to “I” things that happen are allowed to be as they are without the mind creating suffering. The conventional thought is there has to be an emotional tie to what happens, but what’s not understood is you don’t have to suffer. This isn’t seen because of the attachment to a self that only exist in the mind.

No one has to suffer through life, but if the herd mentality is blindly followed suffering will be the norm. Go deeper within to see how your own suffering is created by holding onto a self that’s been programmed by the conditioning of what is considered normal. The past can’t be changed so there’s no reason to replay it over and over. Replaying it doesn’t change it, but it does cause it to remain stagnant and create a Conditioned Mind Pattern that doesn’t allow you to see there really isn’t a you to hold onto anything. Although what happens happens, it deosn’t happen to you so nothing needs to be changed. Not because it’s being ignored, it’s because there’s no attachment to a self that makes it personal…